Narcissistic Parents – Characteristics

Characteristics of Narcissistic Parents

From Children of the Self Absorbed: A Grownup’s Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown

* Turns every conversation to him or herself.
* Expects you to meet his or her emotional needs
* Ignores the impact of his negative comments on you
* Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you
* Focus on blaming rather than taking responsibility for his own behavior
* Expect you to jump at his every need
* Is overly involved with his own hobbies, interests or addictions ignoring your needs
* Has high need for attention:
* Brags, sulks, complains, inappropriately teases, is flamboyant, loud and boisterous
* Is closed minded about own mistakes. Can’t handle criticism and gets angry to shut it off
* Becomes angry when his needs are not met and tantrums or intimidates
* Has an attitude of “Anything you can do, I can do better”
* Engages in one-upmanship to seem important
* Acts in a seductive manner or is overly charming
* Is vain and fishes for compliments. Expects you to admire him
* Isn’t satisfied unless he has the “biggest” or “best”
* Seeks status. Spends money to impress others
* Forgets what you have done for them yet keeps reminding you that you owe them today
* Neglects the family to impress others. Does it all: Is a super person to gain admiration
* Threatens to abandon you if you don’t go along with what he wants
* Does not obey the law—sees himself above the law
* Does not expect to be penalized for failure to follow directions or conform to guidelines
* Ignores your feelings and calls you overly sensitive or touchy if you express feelings
* Tells you how you should feel or not feel
* Cannot listen to you and cannot allow your opinions
* Is more interested in his own concerns and interests than yours
* Is unable to see things from any point of view other than his own
* Wants to control what you do and say—tries to micromanage you
* Attempts to make you feel stupid, helpless and inept when you do things on your own
* Has poor insight and can not see the impact his selfish behavior has on you
* Has shallow emotions and interests
* Exploits others with lies and manipulations.
* Uses emotional blackmail to get what he wants
* May engage in physical or sexual abuse of children

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